OCD Recovery: What Does 'Getting Better' Really Look Like?
Understanding what OCD recovery means, and why it might look different than you expect.
I can’t count the number of times I meet a new client who has been to “therapy for OCD” but feels worse than when they started. I’ve heard of providers using talk therapy, relaxation, hypnosis, EMDR, or cognitive therapy to treat OCD. I’ve even heard of providers who have no idea what OCD really is and mistake intrusive thoughts for actual wants and have called 9-1-1, CPS, or the police. Some providers reassure people with OCD. Without ERP or other evidence based therapy for OCD, all of this is absolutely wrong.
If you’ve tried therapy before. You’ve talked about your intrusive thoughts, your compulsive behaviors, and anxiety that won't quit. Your therapist listened, offered reassurance, maybe taught you some relaxation techniques.
And yet... the OCD didn't get better.
You, sadly, probably weren’t working with an OCD specialist.
Unfortunately, the average person with OCD waits 14-17 years between symptom onset and receiving proper treatment. Not because treatment doesn't exist, but because they're seeing therapists who don't specialize in OCD.
If you're struggling to find effective help, you're not alone. Let's talk about why seeing an OCD specialist matters, and exactly how to find one.
Most therapists receive minimal training in OCD during their graduate programs (sometimes just a single lecture or chapter). They may have a rudimentary understanding of what OCD is, but not how to effectively treat it.
Here's what often happens when you see a non-specialist:
❌ They provide reassurance — "You would never do that," "Those thoughts don't mean anything"
❌ They focus on relaxation — Deep breathing, mindfulness to "calm the thoughts"
❌ They explore root causes — "Let's talk about why you might have these thoughts"
❌ They validate avoidance — "Just don't think about it," "Avoid your triggers until you feel ready"
The problem? All of these approaches actually reinforce OCD instead of treating it.
Therapists who specialize in OCD are trained in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)—the gold-standard treatment with decades of research backing its effectiveness.
An OCD specialist will:
✓ Help you face your fears gradually — Through structured exposure exercises
✓ Teach you to resist compulsions — Not through willpower, but through new learning
✓ Reduce reassurance-seeking — Even when it feels counterintuitive
✓ Focus on behavior change — Not analyzing why you have OCD, but what to DO about it
✓ Normalize intrusive thoughts — Because everyone has them!
The result? Most people see significant improvement within 12-20 sessions when working with a trained OCD specialist. ERP works. ERP specialists help people get better every single day.
Be cautious if your therapist:
🚩 Says things like "just try not to think about it" or "those thoughts will go away with time"
🚩 Provides frequent reassurance about your obsessions
🚩 Focuses primarily on talk therapy without behavioral exercises
🚩 Seems uncomfortable discussing the content of your intrusive thoughts
🚩 Doesn't mention ERP, exposures, or response prevention
🚩 Suggests you should be able to "think your way out" of OCD
🚩 Doesn't give you homework or practice assignments between sessions
Keep in mind: A well-meaning therapist who doesn't specialize in OCD can accidentally make your symptoms worse, even with the best intentions.
When searching for an OCD therapist, look for:
Not all OCD is the same. Look for experience with:
A true OCD specialist will:
Start with directories that specifically list OCD specialists:
International OCD Foundation (IOCDF) Provider Directory
→ iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/find-help/
Lists clinicians with specialized OCD training
Psychology Today
→ psychologytoday.com
Filter by "Obsessive-Compulsive (OCD)" under Issues
But verify their actual OCD specialization (not everyone listed is truly specialized)
ADAA Therapist Directory
→ adaa.org/finding-help/treatment/find-a-therapist
Anxiety and Depression Association of America's directory
Local OCD Clinics or Centers
Many cities have specialized OCD treatment centers with intensive programs and outpatient services.
When you contact potential therapists, ask:
You don't have to limit your search to local therapists. Many excellent OCD specialists provide:
Virtual therapy across state lines — Through programs like PsyPact (For example, at Houston Anxiety and Wellness Center Psypact allows our licensed psychologists to practice in multiple states!)
Benefits of telehealth for OCD:
During your initial consultation, a true OCD specialist should:
✓ Conduct a thorough assessment of your symptoms
✓ Explain how ERP works and why it's effective
✓ Describe what a preliminary exposure hierarchy with you
✓ Set clear, measurable treatment goals
✓ Discuss what to expect from treatment, including realistic timelines
✓ Assign homework or practice exercises
If the first sessions are mostly just talking about your history without any discussion of behavioral treatment, this may not be an OCD specialist.
Research shows that when treated by OCD specialists using ERP:
Compare this to general therapy approaches, where many people with OCD see minimal or no improvement—sometimes for years.
"I spent 3 years in regular therapy talking about my intrusive thoughts. My therapist was kind, but I didn't get better. Within 2 months of working with an OCD specialist, I was doing things I hadn't done in years." — Sarah, 32
"The difference was night and day. My first therapist kept reassuring me I wasn't a bad person. My OCD specialist taught me I didn't need reassurance at all—that was the game-changer." — Marcus, 28
If you live in an area with limited access to specialized care:
Many states participate in PsyPact or have reciprocal licensing agreements, allowing you to work with specialists nationwide.
Some people travel to OCD treatment centers for intensive programs (3-5 days per week for several weeks), then continue with local support.
Some specialists offer consultation models where they guide a local therapist in providing ERP, or conduct periodic video check-ins while you do self-directed exposures.
Evidence-based programs like NOCD offer app-based therapy with OCD specialists via video sessions.
Even among OCD specialists, fit matters. Consider switching if:
🚩 You're not doing any exposures after 3-4 sessions
🚩 They seem judgmental about your specific obsessions
🚩 They're not challenging you to move forward
🚩 They provide excessive reassurance
🚩 You don't feel safe or supported
🚩 They don't explain their reasoning or treatment plan
A good therapeutic relationship is crucial—but that relationship should include effective, evidence-based treatment.
As you search for an OCD specialist, reflect on:
Finding an OCD specialist is essential for effective treatment.
You deserve a therapist who:
Don't settle for therapy that keeps you talking about OCD without actually treating it. The right specialist can help you reclaim your life,often much faster than you think.
At Houston Anxiety and Wellness Center, our team has extensive training in ERP therapy and specializes in treating all types of OCD. We've helped hundreds of people break free from OCD's grip and build the lives they want.
We offer:
Schedule a consultation to learn how we can help you find relief from OCD.
Don't wait another minute for proper treatment. The right specialist can change everything.
References:
American Psychiatric Association. Practice guidelines for the treatment of patients with obsessive compulsive disorder. Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Association, 2007.
Foa E. B. (2010). Cognitive behavioral therapy of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Dialogues in clinical neuroscience, 12(2), 199–207.
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